For whatever reason, there aren’t nearly as many dominants who blog as there are submissives who blog.
Submissives are, by nature, more inclined to try to gain attention of those who may follow a blog, hoping to get some microscopic amount of titillation.
Dominants, however, are more controlled. Generally speaking, of course… dominants don’t typically show their faces online. I’m really not sure why this is; perhaps it’s because many doms don’t require external approval from other people.
Hence, if you are a blossoming Dom then it is probably going to be more difficult to find writings and inspiration from traditional online sources.
Maybe this generality, along with my love of the English language, causes me to be overly critical of online dominants with a lesser grasp. With that being said; “I’m not the example of perfection.”
HARDLY.
But, I believe that a dominant should be somewhat cerebral. A dominant should be aware in his own head WHAT he wants and enjoys. While a dominant may not communicate frequently, when he does, he should be clear and concise in his thoughts and directions. Such clarity requires an understanding of what you are wanting to say. And then being able to do it.
This is my opinion.
I always thought that many submissives are given writing assignments, and that is why we see more blogs from them…that and the predetermined factors that led them to be a submissive in the first place (like you said, the higher need for attention/external validation). Interesting thoughts though, good post.
I think you are right in many cases; I hadn’t remembered the assignments aspect when I first wrote this.
i think you’re right about the need for Dominants to be clear with themselves about what they want and enjoy, as well as to be able to communicate it clearly. For what it’s worth, i’ve wondered if Doms don’t blog because they’re a bit like wizards ~ not wanting people to see behind the persona, thinking that they’re not supposed to have doubts. But i’ve also known some Dominants who were not very clear with themselves and others.
i think submissives blog in an effort to sort out what’s going on with us, and i guess for approval ~ at least, for the sense of community that comes with it, although many of us don’t realize we’ll be part of the community when we start.
i’m looking forward to more of your blog!
sofia